This post is going out to all my fellow good girls. This post is for all the girls who don’t sneak out. This post is for all the girls who are bookworms. This for all the girls who have never been kissed. This is for all the girls who have never had a boyfriend. This is for all the girls who believe in God. This is for all the girls who don’t engage is promiscuous activities. This is for all the girls who don’t party. This is for all the girls who don’t even cuss. This is for all the girls who refuse to settle for less. This is for the girls who are tired of waiting for prince charming. This is for all my good girls out there. You aren’t the only one. I understand your frustrations.
[In the case that you don’t feel you are a “good” girl, or that this post may not apply to you just know I am not trying to leave anyone out. This is just a post that I feel certain girls may relate to more than others. Just because you don’t fit any of the description does not mean this post won’t be helpful. Also, if you are a boy, this post is not only for girls. In any case, please read on.]
Frustrated. That is how I feel and I know that my fellow good girls are feeling. I was talking to a close friend of my mine really late at night and we could not help but wonder why? Why don’t we have boyfriends? Why can’t we fall in love? Why don’t guys like us? Why? Why? Why? We continually asked each other these questions going in circles trying to answer all of them. We have conversations like this frequently and always wonder why? We sometimes begin to fall into self doubt and being extremely self conscious. We begin to wonder what other girls have that we simply seem to not have. We knock ourselves down to simply nothing when we shouldn’t, but sometimes it just happens.
Then suddenly it dawned on me. We were talking on the phone and I said “I get it. I know it. I know why it is so hard for us to fall in love.” She replied with something along the lines of “Oh really? Tell me.” and I said ” It is hard for us to fall in love because we are not easy.” My fellow good girls, we are not easy. Period. We don’t go around engaging in promiscuous acts, drinking, partying, etc. We are good girls. Personally it seems to me that nowadays guys want a girl who will do just those things. Seems to me that what they want is an easy girl, and we my dears are not easy. Now, before I get a comment from a guy claiming that he doesn’t want a girl like that, I would like to say I know that there are nice guys out there. There are still some gentlemen in this world, it is just going to be difficult to find them. Gentlemen, there are still ladies out there waiting for you to come to our rescue.
It is just a little discouraging at times. Personally, I sometimes can’t help but not feel good enough. Then I have to stop thinking like an idiot and realize that there is someone out there for me and I just need to stop being impatient. I only sometimes wonder about the guys in my past that who have asked me out and I turned down. I wasn’t mean about it, I could not possibly think about being mean to someone who had built up the courage, and put themselves out there by asking me out. Back to my point with this, I sometimes feel bad about saying no, and thinking about if I said yes how I might “be in love” or have a boyfriend right now. Then I have to remember that those guys weren’t right for me. Those guys were right for someone just not me, and I have to remember that as well.
What I am trying to say is, my fellow good girls, don’t give up. Don’t go to the dark side. Don’t change yourselves just to be with a guy. Just be you. Find a guy who loves you for you. Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. Don’t get into a relationship just to be in one. It is better to be single and happy, then stuck with someone who doesn’t make you happy. Remember, falling love is going to be hard because we aren’t easy. We aren’t easy to please. Find the perfect gentleman for you and you will realize he was worth the wait. We are waiting for our prince charming. I am playing the waiting game with you too. It isn’t the easiest game to play but keep playing and you won’t lose in this game called love.
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In all honesty, I am only trying to help out others by sharing my experiences here. If you are a girl who parties with her boyfriend or whatever. I am not trying to bash on you or your relationship. At all. I am not trying to make anyone feel bad with this post. I hope this helps those other good girls out there.
[Sorry I haven’t updated in the longest time. This is my first post in about 2 months. I apologize for that. I know there might have been some who were waiting for a new post. I have the age old of excuse of being busy….and a little lazy. I am going to work on posting at least twice a week.]